Catching
a liar in action can be pretty tricky. Falsely accusing someone can
start a big fight, but at the same time, you don't want to seem too
naive.
So how do you know for sure if your boyfriend is lying to you?
I've put together 10 signs that your boyfriend might be a liar. Keep these things at the back of your mind.
Also
keep in mind that these aren't foolproof - the truth is, there are some
people out there who are great liars and are hard to catch in the act.
But in general, these will be helpful for figuring out whether or not he's a liar:
He's
not acting like himself: Usually when someone lies, they feel a little
uncomfortable and worried about getting caught. If your boyfriend is
lying to you about something big, chances are his attitude will change a
little bit.
If
he's usually really open with you and very happy and he's suddenly
being secretive and jumpy, that may be a sign that something is up.
He
doesn't look at you: Pay attention to your boyfriend's body language
whenever he's telling you something that you think he's lying about, or
whenever you ask him if he's lying. Will he look you in the eye? If
he'll look anywhere except at you, that's a good sign that he's not
being honest.
It's
hard to look in the eyes of someone you care about and boldly lie. If
you think he's full of it, say, "look me in the eyes and say it." If he
can't do it, he's probably lying.
His
story is never the same: Lying can be difficult, especially if you're
lying about something complicated. Pay attention to the details your
boyfriend gives you when he's telling you something.
Wait a few days, and then ask for the same story again. If some things don't add up, it could be because they didn't happen.
If this happens more than a few times, it could mean he's making stuff up and isn't good at keeping track of everything.
He
gets super defensive: How does your boyfriend react when you accuse him
of lying? If he gets super, super defensive, it might mean he's lying
and is freaking out about getting caught.
This
one is tricky, because it's completely natural to get defensive
whenever you're accused of fibbing, whether you did it or not.
However, if your boyfriend's response is over-the-top, it could mean he's in panic mode.
There
are a lot of long pauses: According to Cosmopolitan, long pauses before
an answer are a sign that he's not telling you the truth.
If
he pauses for a minute before answering or repeats the question before
responding, he could be giving himself time to come up with an answer.
He
accuses you of lying all the time: Sometimes when people feel guilty
about their own lies, they try to shift the blame a little bit. If your
guy is constantly accusing you of breaking his trust, it may be because
he feels bad about breaking your trust.
Or, if he counteracts your probing question with one of his own, he could just be trying to distract you.
He
never gives you any details: Do you think your boyfriend is lying about
who he was hanging out with earlier? Try to ask some innocent-sounding
questions like, "what did you do?".
Don't
grill him for details, but ask a few questions. If he keeps saying,
"Um, I don't know" or "I don't remember" or if he blows up about it,
it's probably because he doesn't have any real details to give you.
He's
super weird with his phone: I would never advise you to take a secret
peek at your boyfriend's phone, but keeping an eye on how he acts with
it is okay if you suspect he's lying.
Does
he constantly keep it with him, even if he's just running to the
bathroom? Does he freak out if you touch it when it goes off? If he's
crazy private about his phone, it could be because there's stuff in
there he doesn't want you to see.
He
has a history of lying: If your boyfriend has a history of lying to
you, what makes you think that this time is going to be any different?
If
he's lied to you once or twice about little things, that doesn't mean
he should never be trusted. But if he's fibbed about some major stuff
before, he could very easily be doing it again.
You
have a gut feeling: Honestly, in the end, you really need to go with
your gut. You can go through all of the steps above and still not find
out for sure if he's a liar.
But if you have a serious gut feeling that he's being dishonest, then you probably have that for a reason.
Trust
yourself - dig deep down to see if you really believe he's lying or
not. Sometimes we have these feelings because we're right.
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